I've come to recognize my own participation in unnecessary conflict, and how that conflict distracts me from focusing on what matters most in life. I have even thought as much, to consider my own sources of conflict as intentional distractions. It's as if I need conflict to serve as a living excuse for my personal lack of success and motivation.
Well, recently I gave deep thought to prevalently passed parent-backed child rearing tip, 'choose your battles.' The realization that I can choose whether or not to participate in conflict is a powerful one. I am currently learning to apply this exact lesson to my everyday life and within interactions with those other than my children.
This is how it's done: At that very moment, you begin to feel uneasy, upset, or unsettled simply recite, "I choose NOT to battle."
Removing unnecessary conflict will allow you to remain focused on what matters. It also allows you to solve necessary conflict on a higher ground, rather than that whereon our emotions often abandon us.
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